A Retir'd Friendship — Poem analysis

Katherine PhilipsContemplative

Come, my Ardelia, to this bowre, Where kindly mingling Souls a while, Let's innocently spend an houre, And at all serious follys smile

Here is no quarrelling for Crowns, Nor fear of changes in our fate; No trembling at the Great ones frowns Nor any slavery of state.

Here's no disguise, nor treachery Nor any deep conceal'd design; From blood and plots this place is free, And calm as are those looks of thine.

Here let us sit and bless our Starres Who did such happy quiet give, As that remov'd from noise of warres. In one another's hearts we live.

We should we entertain a feare? Love cares not how the world is turn'd. If crouds of dangers should appeare, Yet friendship can be unconcern'd.

We weare about us such a charme, No horrour can be our offence; For misheif's self can doe no harme To friendship and to innocence.

Let's mark how soone Apollo's beams Command the flocks to quit their meat, And not intreat the neighbour -- streams To quench their thirst, but coole their heat.

In such a scorching Age as this, Whoever would not seek a shade Deserve their happiness to misse, As having their own peace betray'd.

But we (of one another's mind Assur'd,) the boistrous world disdain; With quiet souls, and unconfin'd, Enjoy what princes wish in vain.

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Katherine Philips opens with an invitation: "Come, my Ardelia, to this bowre." The speaker asks her friend to spend an hour somewhere apart, where two souls can "at all serious follys smile." The rest of the poem explains why this small, private meeting is worth more than the things the world takes seriously. Its central idea is that friendship is a better refuge, and a richer possession, than power. By the end the speaker claims that she and Ardelia "Enjoy what princes wish in vain."

What is striking is how little the bower is actually described. We get no flowers or birdsong, only a list of what is missing. Three stanzas run on negatives: "Here is no quarrelling," "Nor fear," "No trembling," "Here's no disguise, nor treachery." The vocabulary belongs to the court: crowns, "the Great ones frowns," "slavery of state," "blood and plots." The retreat is defined by the world it shuts out, so politics is present in every line, even as the speaker waves it away. The poem never names a particular event. But "noise of warres" and talk of plots suggest a time of unrest, and the poem reads as a response to it.

The one positive picture in this stretch is the friend herself. The place is "calm as are those looks of thine," so Ardelia's face becomes the landscape. Two stanzas later the idea is stated outright: "In one another's hearts we live." The real shelter is not a place at all.

The form supports this calm. The poem has nine quatrains in smooth iambic tetrameter, rhymed ABAB, and the lines rarely strain against the beat. It sounds like unhurried speech between friends. The rhymes do some quiet work too. "Crowns" is paired with "frowns," so royal power shrinks to a disapproving face. "Starres" and "warres" sit together, while "give" and "live" carry the gentler thought. In the sixth stanza, "offence" rhymes with "innocence," which makes innocence sound like armour. Friendship is also called a "charme," a word that suggests an amulet, and even "misheif's self" is personified only to be made harmless.

The seventh and eighth stanzas bring in the image that gives the poem its logic. When Apollo's sun grows fierce, flocks leave their feeding and head for the streams, not to "quench their thirst, but coole their heat." Then the poem turns the picture on its age: "In such a scorching Age as this, / Whoever would not seek a shade" deserves to lose their happiness. Retreat stops looking like timidity and becomes plain good sense, what any sensible creature does in the heat. This is also the only stanza that speaks in general terms ("Whoever"), as though the poem were stepping back to state its moral before returning to the two friends.

Then comes the pivot: "But we." The closing stanza sets the pair against "the boistrous world" and gives them a freedom that rank cannot buy, being "unconfin'd" in a world of confining ambitions. There is a small tension here. The poem begins by asking for "a while" and "an houre," a brief escape, yet it ends by claiming a lasting superiority over princes. Perhaps that is the point. The hour is temporary, but what it reveals about the friendship is not.

The poem is worth reading for how confidently it reverses a hierarchy. Philips is remembered as a seventeenth-century poet who wrote about friendship, and here she gives it the seriousness and grandeur normally reserved for politics and love. A bond between two women, shown in a quiet bower, ends up outranking crowns. She does it without raising her voice, using plain words, even rhythm, and a sense of the heat outside.

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