A Woman Waits for Me. — Poem analysis

Walt WhitmanCheerful

A WOMAN waits for me—she contains all, nothing is lacking, Yet all were lacking, if sex were lacking, or if the moisture of the right man were lacking.

Sex contains all, Bodies, Souls, meanings, proofs, purities, delicacies, results, promulgations, Songs, commands, health, pride, the maternal mystery, the seminal milk; All hopes, benefactions, bestowals, All the passions, loves, beauties, delights of the earth, All the governments, judges, gods, follow’d persons of the earth, These are contain’d in sex, as parts of itself, and justifications of itself.

Without shame the man I like knows and avows the deliciousness of his sex, Without shame the woman I like knows and avows hers.

Now I will dismiss myself from impassive women, I will go stay with her who waits for me, and with those women that are warm-blooded and sufficient for me; I see that they understand me, and do not deny me; I see that they are worthy of me—I will be the robust husband of those women.

They are not one jot less than I am, They are tann’d in the face by shining suns and blowing winds, Their flesh has the old divine suppleness and strength, They know how to swim, row, ride, wrestle, shoot, run, strike, retreat, advance, resist, defend themselves, They are ultimate in their own right—they are calm, clear, well-possess’d of themselves.

I draw you close to me, you women! I cannot let you go, I would do you good, I am for you, and you are for me, not only for our own sake, but for others’ sakes; Envelop’d in you sleep greater heroes and bards, They refuse to awake at the touch of any man but me.

It is I, you women—I make my way, I am stern, acrid, large, undissuadable—but I love you, I do not hurt you any more than is necessary for you, I pour the stuff to start sons and daughters fit for These States—I press with slow rude muscle, I brace myself effectually—I listen to no entreaties, I dare not withdraw till I deposit what has so long accumulated within me.

Through you I drain the pent-up rivers of myself, In you I wrap a thousand onward years, On you I graft the grafts of the best-beloved of me and America, The drops I distil upon you shall grow fierce and athletic girls, new artists, musicians, and singers, The babes I beget upon you are to beget babes in their turn, I shall demand perfect men and women out of my love-spendings, I shall expect them to interpenetrate with others, as I and you interpenetrate now, I shall count on the fruits of the gushing showers of them, as I count on the fruits of the gushing showers I give now, I shall look for loving crops from the birth, life, death, immortality, I plant so lovingly now.

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Whitman opens with a woman who "contains all, nothing is lacking," then immediately complicates the compliment: everything would be lacking "if sex were lacking." The first lines set up the poem's main claim, which is that sex is the root from which everything else grows. The catalogue that follows is enormous. Sex holds "Bodies, Souls, meanings, proofs, purities," but also "governments, judges, gods." Religion and politics are not above desire here. They are "parts of itself, and justifications of itself." Whitman is turning the usual hierarchy upside down, with the body at the top and the institutions underneath.

The poem is in free verse, with no rhyme and no fixed meter. Rhythm comes from repetition instead. "Without shame the man I like... / Without shame the woman I like" balances the sexes in two parallel lines, and "I see that they understand me... I see that they are worthy of me" works the same way. The long lists of verbs, "swim, row, ride, wrestle, shoot, run, strike, retreat, advance, resist, defend themselves," pile up so fast that the reader runs out of breath, which suits a poem about physical energy. The lines are so long that some spill onto an indented second line, as if the page can't contain them.

The women Whitman admires are not delicate. They are "tann'd in the face by shining suns and blowing winds," "calm, clear, well-possess'd of themselves." He rejects "impassive women" and wants partners who are "not one jot less than I am." That is a striking claim for a poem of its era, and it makes the women's strength central to the poem's vision.

But the poem is harder to admire when the speaker takes over. He calls himself "stern, acrid, large, undissuadable," and says "I listen to no entreaties" and "I dare not withdraw." Modern readers are likely to be uncomfortable here. The line "I do not hurt you any more than is necessary for you" sounds domineering, and the woman's own voice never appears. We only hear what the speaker sees in her. The poem praises female equality while giving all the speaking, and all the initiative, to the man. That contradiction is worth discussing, because it shows how a poet can be bold and still limited by the assumptions around him.

The final stanza explains the larger purpose. Water and farming images take over: "pent-up rivers," "drops I distil," "gushing showers," "grafts," "crops," "plant." Sex becomes a kind of agriculture, and the poem's tense shifts from present to future with a run of "I shall" statements. The speaker expects "fierce and athletic girls, new artists, musicians, and singers," and children who will "beget babes in their turn." Time stretches out: "In you I wrap a thousand onward years." The poem ends with "birth, life, death, immortality," so that one act is linked to the whole cycle of human existence.

The phrase "These States" shows what Whitman is really aiming at. He wants to build a nation, and the "perfect men and women" who will come from this union are meant to be citizens of a democracy. The body is not private or shameful. It is the country's raw material. Even the claim that "greater heroes and bards" sleep inside the women, waiting to be woken, treats desire as a source of national creativity.

The poem matters because it tries to talk about sex without euphemism or apology, and to treat it as a source of meaning rather than a problem to be managed. It is also an uneasy poem, since its celebration of equality sits beside a speaker who won't hear "no." Reading it well means keeping both truths in view: the ambition of its vision and the blind spots in how that vision is carried out.

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