How to Care — Summary

On the last day of April, Facebook gives us a new way to react: a care emoji. Yellow generic-person hugs a disembodied heart, perhaps the heart that absence makes fonder. But to older eyes, unless you squint, it looks like someone clutching an open wound.

taking shelter under my umbrella mosquito

Such a long, cold, rainy April we’ve had. The death toll continues to climb, just as the scientists foretold. Already more Americans have died from COVID-19 than in the Vietnam War, they say — a comparison which has the unfortunate side-effect of making our imperial adventures seem like natural disasters. But it’s always hard to turn the dead into mere statistics. Picture instead a large stadium where the entire crowd has just perished. Or all the stumps in a 300-acre forest that’s just been clear-cut.

soil too wet to plant fresh graves

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Dave Bonta mixes prose and short haiku-like verses to reflect on grief during the COVID-19 pandemic. The prose begins with something trivial: a new Facebook "care" emoji that, to the speaker, looks less like comfort than like someone clutching a wound. That wry, uneasy observation sets the tone. Online sympathy feels thin next to what is actually happening.

The speaker then turns to the death toll, noting that American deaths have passed those of the Vietnam War. He distrusts the comparison, saying it makes human-made violence seem like a natural disaster. Because numbers numb us, he asks us to picture a stadium full of dead people or a clear-cut forest of stumps.

The two short verses bring the loss down to earth: a mosquito sheltering under an umbrella, and soil too wet to plant, with fresh graves. The mood is quiet, weary, and angry, with grief held in check by dry irony.

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