Find Love — Summary

Jade HoltContemplative

You don't have to open your flesh To find love Look for it elsewhere In his eyes before he kisses you In his smile after In the sunrise shared In the moonlight you dance beneath His chin on your head His face in your chest Look for it in bed As you disentangle yourselves in the morning As you count his breaths at night Don't mutilate yourself Blood is not the same as love It feels so at the time But you know When the guilt sets in You were wrong You don't have to open your flesh To find love

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Jade Holt's poem speaks directly to someone who may be hurting themselves, urging them to see that love and self-harm are not the same thing. The opening line, repeated at the very end, works like a gentle but firm refrain: you don't have to open your flesh to find love. Nothing about it has to cost you blood.

In between, the speaker fills the poem with small, tender images of what love looks like instead: a look before a kiss, a smile afterward, dancing in moonlight, a chin resting on your head, counting someone's breaths as they sleep. These moments are quiet and ordinary, which is the point. The speaker then turns more serious, admitting that blood can feel like love "at the time," but guilt tells you otherwise.

The mood is caring and protective, almost like a friend speaking softly. It is warm, but it carries real worry underneath, and it ends by repeating its message as reassurance.

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