What To Do With All The Goodbyes — Summary

Linda BJune 2, 2011Contemplative

How should I finish the goodbyes? I’ve spent the past weeks finding good, appropriate, warm, special, and creative ways to say goodbye: to students who are leaving our school to continue on to high school, to students who are leaving to attend other schools, to teachers who are leaving because they’re moving or because they want a change in their careers, and to our head of school who also is moving to another life challenge. I feel I am ready to stuff all the goodbyes into one beautiful box. It will hold all the emotions. It will contain the tears and best wishes, hugs, waves, cheers, good lucks, and I’ll miss you’s—the fluttery feelings of heartache that I don’t want to feel anymore. They’ll be packed into the box, shut and taped down for this year, until next time, when I ready myself for endings again.

It reminds me of playing Bingo, when one stays at the card, dutifully marking the numbers as they’re called when you see some on your card. Slowly, the squares are taken, and the line is made. BINGO is shouted, and it’s over, someone has won, and it’s over. You’ve done all you could, played, and won or lost, and it’s over. That’s how goodbyes feel. It’s time to put them all away this year.

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The speaker seems to work at a school, and the end of the year has brought a flood of farewells: students heading to high school or other schools, teachers moving on, and the head of school leaving too. After weeks of searching for warm, creative ways to say goodbye to each person, the speaker is tired and wants a way to be finished. The answer is an imagined box that holds every tear, hug, wave, cheer and "I'll miss you," then gets taped shut until next year.

The second part compares goodbyes to a game of Bingo. You mark your card, the squares fill up, someone shouts "BINGO," and it's over, whether you won or lost. The repeated "it's over" sounds tired and a little numb. The mood is bittersweet and weary. The speaker cares deeply, but the "fluttery feelings of heartache" are ones they "don't want to feel anymore," so the poem reads as a quiet attempt to protect themselves until endings come around again.

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