Approach-Avoidance — Summary

Mike StoneRomantic

Tell me why it cannot be she asked him. He said

Come to me and let me hold you one more time.

Innocently I'll kiss your forehead

Like your quick kisses on my cheek (but then my lips).

The sin was never in your giving, but my taking.

It would not have worked for us, I'd enfold your hips With entwined arms till death undid them.

But you know I could not leave her.

We've breathed so long together

It's hard to know where one leaves off and other begins.

Sharing tears for common memories.

How could I walk away from her? It'd be as if I'd tried To pack my bags and leave the universe.

Long ago I promised we'd be buried side by side.

Just one more kiss of innocence, please Let me go.

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A woman asks a man why they cannot be together, and the poem is his answer. He begins by asking for one last embrace and a "innocent" kiss on the forehead, but he undercuts himself almost at once, admitting that her quick kisses on his cheek had a way of turning into something more. He takes the blame for that, saying the sin was "never in your giving, but my taking."

Then he explains why he cannot leave his wife. After so many years together, he says, it is hard to tell where one of them ends and the other begins. They share tears and memories, and leaving her would be like packing a bag to leave the universe. He once promised they would be buried side by side, and he means to keep it.

The mood is tender, sad, and a little desperate. The title fits: he keeps leaning toward the other woman and pulling back. His final plea, "please / Let me go," is unclear. He may be asking her to release him, or asking himself to be released from temptation.

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