«What do you do when you don't want to be seen?» — Poem analysis

What do you do when you don't want to be seen? How do you avoid the on looking eyes? Have you ever asked why people can be so mean? Do you notice all the lies? When all you want to do is cry out or scream Why do we stop ourselves? Why can it be so hard to let go? Why is there nothing that helps? Why can’t anyone know? When you want the noise to end How come it gets louder? How do you describe your darkest feelings? Do you ever feel like there's something on your shoulder? What stops our wounds from healing? When you don't want to feel broken How do you hold yourself together? Does it ever stop? Why can we “never say never”? How do you keep hope? These are but a few of the question That come and go through my mind But are never heard As they are never asked Now you may want to ask me why And the answer to that is simple I don’t ask because no one knows how to answer The answers to these questions Aren’t that simple

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Sixteen of the first nineteen lines of Katie Foster's untitled poem end in question marks, yet its central claim is that these questions are never asked. The speaker offers a flood of private worries about hiding from "on looking eyes," about cruelty and lies, about pain that won't heal. Then she explains why they stay unspoken. The answer is not shame or fear. It is a quiet, tired kind of realism: "no one knows how to answer."

The poem has no title, only asterisks, which suits its subject. It begins in the middle of a thought, as if we have caught the speaker mid-silence. The structure is easy to follow once you notice it. For nineteen lines the poem is almost pure interrogation. Then it turns to flat statement ("These are but a few of the question / That come and go through my mind"), and the question marks disappear. Even the invitation "Now you may want to ask me why" is a statement, not a question. The poem has been asking and now it explains, and the change in punctuation makes the change in mood audible.

The pronouns tell a similar story. The opening questions use a general "you": "What do you do when you don't want to be seen?" This keeps the speaker half-hidden, as if she were quizzing a stranger. Midway the voice slips into "we" ("Why do we stop ourselves?"), and only at the end does "I" and "me" appear. The speaker approaches herself slowly, and the poem enacts the reluctance it describes.

Foster uses sound in a loose, unforced way. The poem is free verse with no steady metre, but rhyme keeps surfacing. In the opening lines, "seen," "mean" and "scream" share a long *ee* sound, while "eyes" and "lies" chime together. Later, "go" meets "know," and "louder" meets "shoulder." These echoes are never tidy enough to feel like a song. They feel more like thoughts circling back to the same spot, which fits a mind that can't stop replaying its worries. The shorter lines, such as "Does it ever stop?" and "How do you keep hope?", land like small, breathless interruptions.

The imagery is plain, and that plainness is part of the effect. The speaker keeps reaching for physical sensations to describe what she cannot name directly. Emotional pain becomes "wounds" that won't heal. Feeling "broken" leads to the image of having to "hold yourself together," as though she were a cracked object gripped in her own hands. "Something on your shoulder" gives anxiety a weight, and the vagueness of "something" is telling. Her vocabulary keeps falling back on blurry words like "something," "nothing" and "noise." The poem even asks, "How do you describe your darkest feelings?" and in a sense admits it can't do so directly. The "noise" that "gets louder" when she wants it to end suggests an inner racket rather than an outer one, and the paradox is sharp: the loudest thing in the poem is the thing nobody hears.

One of the cleverest moments is the quoted phrase "never say never." It is a cheerful cliché, the sort of thing people say to cheer someone up, and the speaker turns it into a question: why *can* we never say never? In context it sounds less like encouragement than like a trap. If nothing can be ruled out, then neither can the pain continuing. Hope arrives only afterwards, and only as a question: "How do you keep hope?" It is not a promise, but it is there.

The ending is the poem's boldest move. Having asked so many large questions, the speaker explains her silence with the word "simple," and then uses it again to undercut herself: "The answers to these questions / Aren't that simple." The repetition delivers a quiet punch. Silence is easy, and answers are not. The poem refuses a comforting conclusion, and it stops without resolution.

That honesty is what makes it worth reading. There is also a gentle contradiction at its heart. The speaker says her questions are never heard, yet the poem is those questions, spoken aloud. By writing it, she has asked them after all. Whether anyone can answer is left open, but the reader, now addressed by every "you," is no longer able to say the questions were never asked.

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